Wednesday, August 7, 2013

If you have nothing good to say...

According to Sandy Maynard, M.S., an ADHD coach, recommends putting on your breaks, breathing deeply, and flexing your "patience muscles" when you want to say something impulsive or on the rush.  Here are some questions to ask your self as you "flex" those muscles.
1. "Does what I'm about to say need to be said?" If the answer is no, take a deep breath and stay quiet, or replace your statement that your about to say with something neutral like, "Hmm, that's interesting."
2. If what you are about to say does need to be said, ask yourself, "Does it need to be said by me? What needs to be said may be best said by someone else." If so, you can turn to that person and ask for their input or simply state "I'm not the best person to respond to that. Maybe run that by Sally, she could give you some valuable input."
3. If what you are about to say does need to be said and it needs to be said by you, ask yourself, "Does it need to be said now?" Work on creating a response that is regret-free.  Luckily waiting to respond with give you time to rehearse an appropriate statement. 
These tips work for anyone, not only the people who are impulsive or in a rush. Take time to practice these skills and I guarantee more positive words coming out of your mouth.

Living Well with Attention-Deficit Additude, Fall 2013.

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